Passing it on

Independent, free thinking, sometimes brazen, mistake embracing, adventurous, sometimes scared but ready....for life.

I'm more reconnected than ever. It took someone else reaching out to me to recognize my strength. Funny how shit like this works out. This is the woman I've been all along, hello self. I'm so incredibly happy to help someone one their journey wholeheartedly when I can and when they are genuinely reaching out. Of course, you wouldn't want to rob someone of an experience but rather show them what they already know. Lead them to their own answer.

Here was today's question? I have feelings for someone but the feelings are not reciprocated. Is it time to move on from a relationship or continue reaching somewhere between hope and madness for someone who is not giving you the kind of relationship you want or deserve? I'm sure you know my answer but it was more important to find out there's.

So, I think in this situation you must first 1. Define what you want. Knowing what you want makes what you don't want clear. Sometimes listing your wants or non-negotiables is enough to see that you do not need a douche or diva in your life creating a spectrum of drama and self-doubt. Love should help you evolve not devolve, grow not shrink away. When you get to the point that you realize or even have that pestering doubt, recognize this and act accordingly.
2. Date to have fun. DATING is so FUN!!! Going out, first kisses, sweet embraces...dating is such a spectacular thing. Be fun, have fun, Enjoy yourself and your partner.
3. When you find someone that you want to have something develop with let what you want be known, at the appropriate time. I say appropriate 'cause it's really about timing and if in the end you fuck up, So what?
4. The Game. To play or not to play is up to the player. How much game is required to snag the right mate and what amount of game playing constitutes inauthenticity is entirely relative. The teasing, manipulating, control, sweet torture....I really can't say enough about the game. Sure, I know some rules, including Strauss' book and luckily know enough honest men who can provide great albeit sometimes overprotective insight but I guess bottom line is you just need to watch yourself, don't be afraid to put yourself out there and make an effort not to give more than what you want. When a person gives as much as they want to without an expectation of return but simply because they just want to give whatever it is regardlesss of the outcome, I think its refreshing and freeing. There is so much expectation and pressure nowadays. Enjoy the present.
5. I think I'm saying to much. Really what I could do is just combine one and five into a grand statment. Define what you want and if your partner is unable or unwilling to give it to you then move on.

In the great words of Ronen, NEXT!!!....

No experience is wasted!! That's a tremendous burden lifted. No matter how much you fuck up you learn. Live, learn, laugh and love in the process.

Life is beautiful.

i had a lucid epiphany today. A person is not their emotions and it is entirely up to a person how they decide to react to the manifestation of their emotional mind.

Yoga soon, if I don't fall asleep first.