Authenticity and Privacy

I'm dealing with authenticity and privacy.

Can one be authentic and true to themselves in a culture centered on family relationships?

I think yes, but I don't know how yet. Someone told me consider leading a double life which doesn't hit the authenticity requirement.

Another option is to convey what's essential. I think that may be a good start. I thought that part of love was letting someone into your life and sharing your experiences in the confidence of knowing it was between you yourselves. That doesn't seem to happen in families, friends or groups of people that have some sort of community relationship.

I guess the other option is to abandon family and culture norms to be true to yourself and all your imperfections, ideas, values and understandings and create a community to surround yourself with that is like minded.

Do you have any more?

What was my initial effort to be authentic and preserve some memories and thoughts, an emotional catharsis for myself, and sharing this with any human being or bot reading this out in the world of interwebs has to be re-evaluated. Note to self to start my journal again, in private perhaps.

I'm hurting because of how exposed and judged I feel because of dealing with experiencing living with extended family. Thankfully it's a temporary emotion. Ultimately, the smarter part of me knows not to care for something ridiculous, out of my control and that I can really leave individuals to their own thoughts and judgments and the energy that consumes.

I have the business of life to attend to.

One has to remember, it's a privilege to let someone into one's life and one has to put a price on one's head. What I mean - love yourself and don't settle for a friend, lover, family member who doesn't respect, care or love you unconditionally without forcing you to be one thing or anoher.

I've found it valuable to consult for advice and also to consider the source. Now, I've learned to consider the source includes the possible biases or confusion they might have in helping. I realize that if the person you have shared with lets that privileged information leak to the other parties, shit hits the fan.

Essentially I see why people are untrusting, it's when these low feelings occur. I think trust in any kind of relationship with love is important so maybe it's better said to avoid wreckless trusting or be selective and that doesn't make a person any less if you say convey and act that values your own private matters.

When someone ask how are you, they might not mean it the same way you do. They might not want to know or might want to know with intention, good or bad. There is no way to really know.

It's a must to begin feeling a measure of peace in one's own life. Family, School, Governments, Work Places, Religion, anything "organized," can be making you into something you are not by structuring thought process, values, priorities and motivations with or without being conscious or having malicious intent, so it is a challenge and pleasure to remain as true to one self in our society.

Attitude is so important. Realizing that life never promised to be easy, painless or without suffering remains vital to sanity.

I think one of the most important tricks to life is to not take things personally. I have for a long time. It's made me sad that I have to realize not everyone is trust worthy, that I have to wait until someone shows me they are. I don't like the wall that this creates in the world.

Some people just express themselves as jerks, and the motivation of greed for money or power and control, lust...there are so many base things that can coerce even a conscious human being to act disgustingly, to act insensitively, uncompassionately, violently, hypocritically.

So for this bit of sharing with me and if you want so more insight contact me and we will talk.

Signing Off.