"There is all this pleasure people are missing out on"

The world would be a better place if...

I met a great guy and good friend this past weekend. Now, if you've spent some of your lifetime getting to know the world and it's locals then I'm willing to take a listen to your answer. One thing I did learn in college is to remember where you get your sources and their credibility. There needs to be a level of discernment, like with fox news, you can judge for yourself if that's the kind of news resource you want.

People are missing out on a lot of pleasure. Agreed. I remember thinking the EXACT THING last year. Even wrote a blog on compersion. I'll repost it here. It was a hot southern california summer seeing all the barely dressed and very attractive co-eds in my anthropology class and two clueless guys in front talking about how they cannot get any. It is a shame people are missing out on a lot of pleasure. I can agree with that as well.

So knowing this now what, what do we ask ourselves? Would the world be a better place if people persued pleasure as much as developed character or values? I mean some people do, but what makes it bad is when the people they are pursuing don't know or maybe aren't in their right mind or the worst, when the other party wants more.

Who knows, but does it have to get better than that. I mean this is the world right? So instead of hoping to make the world better, something you don't have any ultimate power over, why not instead allow yourself to be better. Being better, perhaps you'll discover yourself in a different place and the world might reveal itself different to you.

Oh my clueless classmates, they need a woman friend who will help awaken their inner cassanova.

So, as my friend is entertaining locals and trying to hook up a cute local girl with a new boyfriend, I am reminded of the pleasure people are missing out on. Life is short friends, so if you are not pleasuring yourself then the question remains, why not. Follow your bliss...

But it's not easy? Why is that? Are there other priorities than pleasure? If so, why do they have to interfere with things? Are people afraid? There is nothing to fear but fear itself, yes it's trite and true. Casual Sex. Friends with benefits sex. Why do these carry stigmas if everyone is happy and no one gets hurt in the process?

Here's the thing. Women are HARDWIRED to have feelings after sex. It's the oxytocin. The same way guys can be horny with perpetual hard ons. Men, please be advised, women also get horny, to varying degrees but know that it can be AS INTENSE and perhaps MORE if a man knows just how to turn on a woman. I can understand the perpetual hard ons in males, to bad there is not a similarly obvious sign with women. Would it make things easier? If so, we could walk around with signs but that might translate to desperation in this day in age. Is there a fine line between frankness and desperation? But maybe that's not the right question when desperation manifest a lack of something else in a person's life.

What I don't understand is how hard-ons continue to happen for men, sometimes without stimulus. Guy getting hard ons on a empty bus, cooking an omelet, or at grandma's house. Maybe that's why estrous hasn't really evolved in women yet, given the right kind of stimulus, a woman can always be up to it physically. Emotionally and mentally, is a whole different game.

I think a good partner can bring out a better lover. In my opinion, that kind of quality in a relationship takes time and is not just about the sex but about being a lover. If someone follows their pleasures and doesn't hurt anyone in the process, remains honest, clearly states his/her intention then the world could be a better place if people pursued their pleasures.

I'm starting to feel the "player" isn't really there if there is no one being "played" so pursuing pleasure honestly is okay on this blog. Just proceed with caution, especially if this is new territory.

Carpe Diem, seize the now!